The Opposite of Patience is Self-Sabotage

Whoever said that patience is a virtue was spot on. It is a virtue than many of us do not have on our best days, let alone when things are rough.

As I have experienced, impatience in business always leads to self-sabotage. From slashing prices to taking on clients that were an ill-fit for me, impatience never ends well.

But the silver lining is experience.

I have learned to be patient To turn up and do the work. To be great at my craft. And to practice patience.

Patience is not sitting idly whilst twiddling my thumbs; far from that. Patience is understanding that the right things will happen at the right time. And if you’ve read The Alchemist, you’ll know that when you truly want something, the entire universe will conspire to help you achieve it. After all, that’s the premise of The Secret.

Don’t sabotage your opportunities. Be true to yourself. Be patient.

I’m Too Busy To …

I used to be that guy who was always busy.

I was brought up to multitask.

My first part-time job drilled into me that I had to always be busy.

I also work in an industry of insecure creatives who use ‘being busy’ as a metaphor for success.

Being busy is a mindset.
It is not reality.

For over 30-days, I have been sick. My coughing was so severe that there were nights where I could not sleep. My coughing was stressing me out. My sleep deprivation was fuelling my stress. Stress would induce more coughing. It was a vicious cycle of heightened cortisol.And once I felt slightly better, I introduced cardio exercise back into my routine – something I had consciously neglected for the past 3-years.

I’m too busy with rebuilding my business, being a full-time student completing an MBA, and being a caring and loving husband to exercise. And we all know how that turned out.

If you don’t make time for fitness, you will have to make time for sickness later on.

What’s keeping you busy?
What’s your favourite excuse?

Fear

I used to fear being broke (i.e., having no money in the bank).
I used to worry incessantly about my business.

Why aren’t people booking me?
Why didn’t that customer leave us a positive review?
Why don’t people know about my brand?

Now my greatest fear is living a life unfulfilled.

But this particular fear is unfounded because every single day I have the opportunity to change the narrative.

It’s as easy as smiling and making eye contact when I order something from a cafe. It’s a simple as holding the door open for someone or letting the car merge in front of mine.

Therefore, my greatest fear no longer exists and I am free to pursue a life of abundance, of giving, and being present in the moment so that I may be the person I wish to be.

What’s your greatest fear?

Gratitude

Over the past year, I kept hearing the word gratitude being repeated by a multitude of people. I kept hearing it on JLD’s guest speakers on Entrepreneur On Fire podcast and on Lewis Howe’s School Of Greatness podcast. Even Tony Robbins attributes gratitude as the antidote for fear. I knew there was something there. And so I’ve been trying it out.

It’s been a few weeks (and there have been plenty of days where I forget to name three things that I am thankful of before getting out of bed) and my gut feeling is that gratitude has allowed me to start each waking day on a positive note.

I began with things that I had.

The list then evolved to people I had in my life (my wife is a reoccurring guest star); not just people but understanding why I’m thankful for these core people in my life.

And slowly, I have been able to be grateful for certain events in my life that had been negative.

I think it’s working.

Perfectionism

“When perfectionism is driving, shame is always riding shotgun and fear is the annoying back seat driver.” – Dr. Brené Brown

Situation: As a professional photographer, I rarely show the back of my camera to my clients.

Reality: I’m fearful that they will not like what they see. I am comfortable only to show images after they have been edited.

Situation: I do not write draft assignments. I always almost hand in a final version on first attempt.

Reality: I am ashamed that I have procrastinated until the last moment before starting the assignment.

Situation: I type everything on a computer.

Reality: I am ashamed at how woeful my handwriting looks.

What’s your perfectionism trying to hide?